My father passed away and I’m not sure how I feel. He was 89 years old and in poor health so it was time. He divorced us kids at the same time he divorced my mom when I was nine years old, but we have been in touch since he married his last wife (the fourth, my mom was the first). I have never felt close since the separation, even though he eventually tried to change that, but I do respect the fact that he is my father. There are always questions that you forget to ask before it is too late and I wish I knew more about his parents. He didn’t want a service, but I made two trips this week to see his wife. I do get along very well with his wife and she is only five years older than I am, so more my age.